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    Men are allowed to think body hair is unattractive

    Women are allowed to think body hair is unattractive

    Men and women are not allowed to tell other people how they should groom themselves just because of what they find personally attractive

    There is common sense on my dashboard, today is a great day.

    (Source: heavy-persuasion, via choosechoice-deactivated2014081)

    — 7 months ago with 251419 notes
    "By insisting that we aren’t ‘hairy, man-hating lesbians’, we are telling the Patriarchy that lesbians, women with hair and women with valid reasons to hate men aren’t worthy of our concern or our support.
    That is not a feminism I support."
    — 7 months ago with 14612 notes
    Anonymous asked: What are the signs of emotional abuse?




    Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.

    Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.

    Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.

    Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.

    Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.

    Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,

    Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.

    Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.

    Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.

    Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.

    Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.

    Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.

    Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.

    Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.

    Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.

    Love, Salem

    Gaslighting, minimizing, invalidation, denying. Yeah, I guess it was abuse?

    — 7 months ago with 87414 notes



    Feminism is having a wardrobe malfunction.

    Does your brand of feminism remove barriers for women, or simply move them around? Does is expand options for women, or does it just shift them? You don’t liberate women by forcing them to choose option B instead of option A. What is comfortable for you might not be comfortable for someone else, and it’s entirely possible that what you see as oppressive, other women find comfortable or even downright liberating.

    Before you think the girl in the middle is a strawman, let me tell you I used to be her, back in my misguided youth. I considered myself the standard to which other people should adhere. But that was stupid. It’s not up to me to tell people how to dress, and it’s much nicer to let everyone choose for themselves.

    Some women would feel naked without a veil. Some women would find it restrictive. Some women would feel restricted by a bra. Some women would feel naked without one. Some women would feel restricted by a tight corset. Others love them. Some wear lots of clothes with a corset. Some only wear the corset and nothing else. What makes any article of clothing oppressive is someone forcing you to wear it. And it’s just as oppressive to force someone not to wear something that they want to wear.

    This is literally the stupidest thing I’ve ever read. No one says any of these things. If you are going to make a critique, make it about something real that is a real thing that really happens. LESS BORING, MORE BRAIN, INTERNET.

    — 7 months ago with 183763 notes
    "Rape jokes are not jokes. Woman-hating jokes are not jokes. These guys are telling you what they think. When you laugh along to get their approval, you give them yours."

    Thomas Millar, Meet the Predators  (via fuckinq)

    my mom told me this when i was like 6. though not specifically about rape jokes, she just said “when people are being mean and you laugh, you are agreeing.”

    (via postwhitesociety)

    “when people are being mean and you laugh, you are agreeing.”

    (via lorilevaughn)

    (Source: mehreenkasana, via fuckyeahwomenprotesting)

    — 7 months ago with 112544 notes



    One of the BEST YouTube comments

    (via fuckyeahfeminists)

    — 7 months ago with 281968 notes


    Project for my Social Psych class last semester. This poster series was created to 1) challenge these internalized stereotypes by bringing them to the viewer’s attention and 2) expand the range of role models by including a diverse group of women. Each poster follows the same basic pattern: a woman who has demonstrated her competency in a particular area refutes the stereotype that appears above her in the form of “Girls can’t …”. While the posters target girls ranging from children to young adults, I expect the message would also cause people outside that demographic to question their own beliefs about women and power.  I designed each aspect of the posters with several principles of social psychology in mind:

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    — 7 months ago with 295193 notes